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“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taughtabout myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.”  James Baldwin 

R O G E R S   F A M I L Y   T H E R A P Y 

It's finally all about You, Your Self & Why. From your point of you.

T i m o t h y  R o g e r s , M A, L M F T

L i c e n s e d  M a r r i a g e  &  F a m i l y  T h e r a p i s t  mfc#101500

"Effective Therapy must be a priority.  Everything else is Affective by it. "  - me

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"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change"

- Carl Rogers

NO IN -OFFICE SESSIONS AS OF MARCH 25, 2020 DUE TO UPDATED BUILDING RESTRICTIONS. 

ALL SESSIONS WILL BE CONDUCTED VIA FACETIME UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE

Coronavirus pandemic STATEMENT

(vii) ​Essential Activities Exempt​. Certain business operations and activities are exempt from the provisions of this Order, on the grounds that they provide services that are recognized to be critical to the health and well-being of the City. These include:

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(a) All healthcare operations, including hospitals, clinics, dentists, pharmacies, pharmaceutical and biotechnology companies, medical and scientific research, laboratories, healthcare suppliers, home healthcare services providers, veterinary care providers, mental health providers, physical therapists and chiropractors, cannabis dispensaries, or any related and/or ancillary healthcare services, manufacturers and suppliers. Healthcare operations does not include fitness and exercise gyms and similar facilities.


Telehealth is a recognized method of offering treatment services via information and communication technologies, such as videoconferencing or telephone. If you work in a hospital, clinic, or other setting, check with your employer to see if telehealth is an option. If you work for your own practice, you may consider telehealth as an alternative method of rendering services. Read CAMFT’s article on California’s laws and regulations for telehealth. If you take insurance, it is recommended that you check with the patient’s plans and your managed care contracts on reimbursement policies for telehealth services.


TIM IS OFFERING VIDEO SESSIONS DURING THIS TIME IF POTENTIAL OR CURRENT CLIENTS WOULD LIKE. A TELE-THERAPY FORM MUST BE SIGNED PRIOR TO THE SESSION

ABANDONMENT  DEPRESSION

Not unlike what is more common known as Clinical Depression, Abandonment Depression is based onaAn emotional state which brings on a catastrophic set of feelings. Based on John Bowlby's attachment theory which suggests that children come into the world biologically preprogrammed to form attachments with others, because this will help them to survive.

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Stages of Abandonment Depression

When we anticipate that our needs may not be met or that someone is again turning away, we can do three basic things—sometimes all in rapid sequence like the baby above: We work harder to connect. We reach, we talk, and we try to find the other person. “Come back to me,” we say!

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We protest the other person’s absence. This can look like anger or sulking… or often comes out in “passive-aggressive” ways because part of us is giving up while part of us continues to protest. We give up. Maybe we turn to food or sleep or exercise or achievements… or we fold in on ourselves and lose our interest in relationships. All of this is the manifestation of the memory of “nobody there.”Is there help for this? Yes!

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Part of the fear and anguish around abandonment lies in not believing that help is possible, of course. So from these feelings, you might not believe me. 

And that’s okay. There really is help, though. This really can change. But it’s hard to change this all by yourself. The antidote to abandonment isn’t self-help. The antidote to abandonment isn’t to do something in lonely isolation.

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The antidote to abandonment is connection. Connecting… When Connecting Is the Problem. Finding a counselor who can map your emotions to unmet young needs can be a big help. Together, we’ll focus on moment-by-moment connection.

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Together, we’ll empathically put words to your struggles and help you to stop abandoning yourself. Together, we’ll connect you to others who can be there for you.

In time, connection begins to feel like a delightful choice rather than a terrible need that leads to more abandonment.

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This work always involves grief for the experience of solid connection that somehow got disrupted when you were young…

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… but it also involves a sense of freedom, of connection, and also of you. The last thing needed when working with these feelings of aloneness is to feel all alone.