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“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taughtabout myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.”  James Baldwin 

R O G E R S   F A M I L Y   T H E R A P Y 

It's finally all about You, Your Self & Why. From your point of you.

T i m o t h y  R o g e r s , M A, L M F T

L i c e n s e d  M a r r i a g e  &  F a m i l y  T h e r a p i s t  mfc#101500


NO IN -OFFICE SESSIONS AS OF MARCH 25, 2020 DUE TO UPDATED BUILDING RESTRICTIONS. 

ALL SESSIONS WILL BE CONDUCTED VIA SKYPE UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE

(vii) ​Essential Activities Exempt​. Certain business operations and activities are exempt from the provisions of this Order, on the grounds that they provide services that are recognized to be critical to the health and well-being of the City. These include:

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(a) All healthcare operations, including hospitals, clinics, dentists, pharmacies, pharmaceutical and biotechnology companies, medical and scientific research, laboratories, healthcare suppliers, home healthcare services providers, veterinary care providers, mental health providers, physical therapists and chiropractors, cannabis dispensaries, or any related and/or ancillary healthcare services, manufacturers and suppliers. Healthcare operations does not include fitness and exercise gyms and similar facilities.


TIM IS OFFERING VIDEO SESSIONS DURING THIS TIME IF POTENTIAL OR CURRENT CLIENTS WOULD LIKE. A TELE-THERAPY FORM MUST BE SIGNED PRIOR TO THE SESSION

THE SELF - A PERSON'S ESSENTIAL BEING THAT DISTINGUISHES THEM FROM OTHERS

SELF WORTH

(The Core - Existing)

Unearthing our Real Selves means systematically excavating a disorder of unworthiness, Reclaimed as we catch up to our true purpose.


When all is said and done, and we are with ourselves, on the toilet, on our death bed, or when we are the most satisfyingly still. At the core of our Selves is Self Worth.


Some cultures have named this part of The Self, the Soul, or in many beliefs in faith, this is our Spirit. In the field of psychology this is our Sense of Agency, our personal reference point of who we are as we know ourselves to be. In the specialized subconscious focus of Depth Psychology and psychoanalytic or psychodynamic psychology, this is who we really are. Our Real Self.


It’s established at birth and in what can be experienced as healthier state of personality development, is *encouraged in childhood from caregivers with a solid sense of their Self Worth. Therefore, they are better able to pass it onto us.

SELF - ESTEEM

(The Actions)


SELF WORTH COMES FROM FEELING WORTHY JUST BECAUSE WE EXSIST

e.g. a child runs into a room where their caregiver is and sees in the caregiver’s eyes that they are excited to see them. All the child has done is enter the room. 

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Their existence is validated as worthy or of value to the child’s most important people, so what has been established at birth is enhanced/encouraged/‘proven’ to the child. This especially influences the child when they are between the ages of 0-3 years.

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As their Self-Worth is encouraged, a person’s emotional world and the ability to manage it in a more consistently mature way develops from there from the inside out). This person is better able to take action toward the one area of life in which emotional maturity is mandatory to its success. —>

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ALL RELATIONSHIPS especially ones of intimacy aka: letting others in on how you authentically feel about …. Anything important to you.

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When we DO something well over and over again first failing & not giving up, we establish Self Esteem. MAYBE A MENTOR or at least one caretaker reinforces what this person does at a pivotal developing stage aka puberty and with Self Worth established,

SELF - ESTEEM

becomes a genuine experience and can be repeated by doing esteem-able acts. Practicing and not giving up.

SELF - CONFIDENCE

(The Optics)

PRACTICING Self esteem by PERFORMING estimable acts, DOING that enough times, creates the outer layer. What everyone outside of you sees. “Oh She’s confident, look at her go!”

Those souls who are convinced, that they are without any SELF - WORTH established within themselves have been convinced by not having been encouraged to believe this by the adults in their young, forming of Self lives, that they are not worthy of existing.


Of course some children are told directly, horrifically cruelly with words (mental abuse), with pain (physical abuse) or with the manipulative lying that is to devalue their natural need to feel necessary. These children receive messages from the adults in their little lives that tells them to denial their feelings and refuse their experience of what’s sane (emotional abuse).


The dogma of another person’s beliefs become the “feelings” about themselves. Slowly but surely, moment after moment, mom after dad after mom after me (in that order) and in order to have internal order, the worthiness of their birth fades from the center of their earth, and their intuitive sureties of how they feel about themselves becomes a specifically dystructive narrative or tape or voice about how to save themselves.

A More Defined Self

The term self-concept is a general term used to refer to how someone thinks about, evaluates or perceives themselves. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself. Baumeister (1999) provides the following self-concept definition:

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"The individual's belief about himself or herself, including the person's attributes and who and what the self is".

The self-concept is an important term for both social and humanistic psychology. Lewis (1990) suggests that development of a concept of self has two aspects:

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(1) The Existential Self

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This is 'the most basic part of the self-scheme or self-concept; the sense of being separate and distinct from others and the awareness of the constancy of the self' (Bee, 1992).

The child realizes that they exist as a separate entity from others and that they continue to exist over time and space.

According to Lewis awareness of the existential self begins as young as two to three months old and arises in part due to the relation the child has with the world. For example, the child smiles and someone smiles back, or the child touches a mobile and sees it move.

More on THE SELF

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(2) The Categorical Self

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Having realized that he or she exists as a separate experiencing being, the child next becomes aware that he or she is also an object in the world.

Just as other objects including people have properties that can be experienced (big, small, red, smooth and so on) so the child is becoming aware of him or her self as an object which can be experienced and which has properties.

The self too can be put into categories such as age, gender, size or skill. Two of the first categories to be applied are age (“I am 3”) and gender (“I am a girl”).

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In early childhood. the categories children apply to themselves are very concrete (e.g., hair color, height and favorite things). Later, self-description also begins to include reference to internal psychological traits, comparative evaluations and to how others see them.