Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist  - Timothy Rogers, MA, LMFT successfully treating adults, couples, teens and families providing tools for continued healing.

T I m o t h y  R o g e r s ,  M A,  L M F T 

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Welcome & Thank you for finding your way to my website. I'm Tim and I am a California State Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) or what's general known as a Psychotherapist. I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology, and am in pursuit of my PhD in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Depth Psychology.


I have extensive experience in successfully treating the development of ineffective personality structures (especially those which are pervasive and specifically due to the childhood trauma of never feeling like they can be themselves and therefore see the world, their world  as a personally put upon burden. ) by addressing the inaccurate self-loathing beliefs  and differentiating them! which misinforms that personality structure throughout our entire lives until a big enough crisis brings them in.  Those who do not seek therapy as a way to gain perspective on themselves and the purpose in their lives, most likely learn this though  learn life's lessons through crisis.

Cycling out of the cycle of Self Doubt

Part of breaking the cycle of Self Sabotage, Self loathing and serious Self Doubt, TRULY breaking it (aka HEALING) entails the a acceptance of reality. Our view of our caretakers as children is that of placing them on a pedestal (kid looks up to 🤔). From the (taking) advantage point 🤔 of an adult, we see them eye to eye not “mine, mine mine!” Taking our care

They are our equals in adult status as long as we stay our adult selves. From the inside out.


Looking at our parents instead of looking to them means allowing the hurt from their mistakes, and accepting that they DID know what they were doing at times. They did. They knew they could get help. They didn’t. Couldn’t. Wouldn’t.

Parenthetical statement:

[Ethical state meant for Parents]:


(Now try to keep going, keep reading pause if you must just don’t stop here. Like many mom & dads who permit their kid to therapy, ego and guilt become their next new charity. It’s a process for a reason so please be reasonable).

From that vantage point we see them in a way they didn’t see us when we REALLY needed them to. From that point of you, you see more clearly, more realistically because you are better able to see your Self that way.


When THAT happens, THEN we are both emotionally informed AND intellectually understand™️ that they, like us, are human. When we know better, we can say ‘no’ or ‘yes’ better.

We are no better than they knowing themselves to be better they than know us to be. Or not to be known is what’s better.

But they “no!” us forever or until we do better. But don’t. So then really... who’s better? Know one: Yourselves first then other.

We see ourselves as they see parts of themselves in us. We are not them. 

They are not us.

That me within their ‘we’ is a repair. Ready for a rebirth. A resurgence of our true Self. Our Real Selves. Selfish no more because we don’t HAVE TO be In order to get our needs met. We know: “no more” in the way it used to be. Toxic. Guilty. Zombie. For generations.


Well, it’s time (minimum an hour) to regenerate. That means. Without being mean, find your own mean. You know on average to answer: “what do YOU mean?” Me an then you from your point of you. You know what I mean? Why??

so that




Are we me?

As we continue to know that “No, is a complete sentence, our sentencing is complete and we are better able to know that our life long sentence of our incomplete is now, in the present- how we feel: complete.



Seeing ourselves as humans being, doing then showing ourselves then others in that order. How not to resign to the time when my me wasn’t mine.

Now redefined, my me is mine and your you YOU define. We stay ourselves AND move together in time

Passing on. Breaking Patterns and meeting up with our own inner Devine. More calm than chaos, more curious than critical, we all end WITH our Selves and not actually alone as is believed by the typical.


We can then look back having examined our life and how it was back then. With pride, honor, respect that we stayed being us AND having HAD TO be them.™️




It’s time to learn how to be attracted to what’s healthy, and why it took “so long!” for it to come to us!


because the answers were in the question. It’s when he are questioning our Selves & others that we are blind to those answers within. The question is—-?

The Answer is too. Stop questioning. Pause. You first and then others get that same consideration. <—— THERE!

The answer to questions don’t lie. Lies don’t question to answer, duh!

They are questioning the asker. That’s way there are so many takers - away!

At most. Not least.

That’s my take a n y w a y. ™️