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It's time to learn how to become attracted to what's healthier. 

Where it's all about You, Your Self & Why.

From your point of you. One Session at a time.

The Self: 

An Independent Center of Initiative  & Perception.

Y O U  G E T  W H A T  Y O U  S T A Y  F O R


A more accurate view

Psychotherapy is a leap of faith. Not away from anyone or anything as much as a huge driving force (motivation) toward your Real Self. 


By looking at your Self in a way that is above all, empathic, honest, and consistent, you will be allowing me to provide interpretations or feedback in reflection back to you what my experience of you in a healthier more satisfying relationship. 


And yes, while our particular relationship will be unique to the ones you have and are attempting to have outside of our work together, consider that you will be paying me for my time and NOT my feelings.  

The privilege of working with those with whom we have each agreed is a "good fit," which means you bringing the best version of you into our sessions.  


Each time we meet, you will be allowing me to guide you as you leave the comfortable but unhealthy "Garden of Ignorance," and more consciously and therefore more informed understanding of yourself. 


By experiencing a relationship with an authentic, emotionally manageable, and consistently accurate perspective of you. You, from Your point of You.

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I have a deep interest in the successful treatment of symptoms of trauma such as Infidelity, substance abuse, and other ways in which we cope with life stressors or feelings of inadequacy which as a Psychoanalytic/Psychodynamic Psychotherapist I see as coming from our childhood selves.

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Lies we tell ourSelves like accepting a false Self-narrative or a clinical diagnosis as an identity perpetuates a Self- loathing narrative in need of uprooting!

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(The Core - Existing)

Unearthing our Real Selves means systematically excavating a disorder of unworthiness, Reclaimed as we catch up to our true purpose.

When all is said and done, and we are with ourselves, on the toilet, on our death bed, or when we are the most satisfyingly still. At the core of our Selves is Self Worth.

Some cultures have named this part of The Self, the Soul, or in many beliefs in faith, this is our Spirit. In the field of psychology this is our Sense of Agency, our personal reference point of who we are as we know ourselves to be. In the specialized subconscious focus of Depth Psychology and psychoanalytic or psychodynamic psychology, this is who we really are. Our Real Self.

It’s established at birth and in what can be experienced as healthier state of personality development, is *encouraged in childhood from caregivers with a solid sense of their Self Worth. Therefore, they are better able to pass it onto us.


(The Actions)


e.g. a child runs into a room where their caregiver is and sees in the caregiver’s eyes that they are excited to see them. All the child has done is enter the room. 


Their existence is validated as worthy or of value to the child’s most important people, so what has been established at birth is enhanced/encouraged/‘proven’ to the child. This especially influences the child when they are between the ages of 0-3 years.


As their Self-Worth is encouraged, a person’s emotional world and the ability to manage it in a more consistently mature way develops from there from the inside out). This person is better able to take action toward the one area of life in which emotional maturity is mandatory to its success. —>


ALL RELATIONSHIPS especially ones of intimacy aka: letting others in on how you authentically feel about …. Anything important to you.


When we DO something well over and over again first failing & not giving up, we establish Self Esteem. MAYBE A MENTOR or at least one caretaker reinforces what this person does at a pivotal developing stage aka puberty and with Self Worth established,


becomes a genuine experience and can be repeated by doing esteem-able acts. Practicing and not giving up.


(The Optics)

PRACTICING Self esteem by PERFORMING estimable acts, DOING that enough times, creates the outer layer. What everyone outside of you sees. “Oh She’s confident, look at her go!”

Those souls who are convinced, that they are without any SELF - WORTH established within themselves have been convinced by not having been encouraged to believe this by the adults in their young, forming of Self lives, that they are not worthy of existing.

Of course some children are told directly, horrifically cruelly with words (mental abuse), with pain (physical abuse) or with the manipulative lying that is to devalue their natural need to feel necessary. These children receive messages from the adults in their little lives that tells them to denial their feelings and refuse their experience of what’s sane (emotional abuse).

The dogma of another person’s beliefs become the “feelings” about themselves. Slowly but surely, moment after moment, mom after dad after mom after me (in that order) and in order to have internal order, the worthiness of their birth fades from the center of their earth, and their intuitive sureties of how they feel about themselves becomes a specifically dystructive narrative or tape or voice about how to save themselves.

A More Defined Self

The term self-concept is a general term used to refer to how someone thinks about, evaluates or perceives themselves. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself. Baumeister (1999) provides the following self-concept definition:


"The individual's belief about himself or herself, including the person's attributes and who and what the self is".

The self-concept is an important term for both social and humanistic psychology. Lewis (1990) suggests that development of a concept of self has two aspects:


(1) The Existential Self


This is 'the most basic part of the self-scheme or self-concept; the sense of being separate and distinct from others and the awareness of the constancy of the self' (Bee, 1992).

The child realizes that they exist as a separate entity from others and that they continue to exist over time and space.

According to Lewis awareness of the existential self begins as young as two to three months old and arises in part due to the relation the child has with the world. For example, the child smiles and someone smiles back, or the child touches a mobile and sees it move.

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(2) The Categorical Self


Having realized that he or she exists as a separate experiencing being, the child next becomes aware that he or she is also an object in the world.

Just as other objects including people have properties that can be experienced (big, small, red, smooth and so on) so the child is becoming aware of him or her self as an object which can be experienced and which has properties.

The self too can be put into categories such as age, gender, size or skill. Two of the first categories to be applied are age (“I am 3”) and gender (“I am a girl”).


In early childhood. the categories children apply to themselves are very concrete (e.g., hair color, height and favorite things). Later, self-description also begins to include reference to internal psychological traits, comparative evaluations and to how others see them.